Help, My Relationship is Exploding!

What if your guy has blundered in the past, by saying things that make you want to sink into the floor, when you're out with friends--or worse, sitting in your favorite auntie's living room? What if, he sticks his foot in his mouth and doesn't even notice it? In a terrible case like that, what intelligent recourse do you have?
And why, exactly, do men make this mistake in the first place; what's going on? In this episode, we look at all the elements, together. Here, we look at exactly the right kind of boundary setting and yes; appropriate damage control, creating a real change going forward. 

Some people, sometimes, have parts of their lives that don't function, so much so that you just might have to solve, repair, or otherwise remedy what they can't figure out, apparently to save their lives (argh). What's going on here? 
First question, is how bad is it? Second question, how much time do you have to carve out for damage control that isn't really yours at all? Third question is, does his carelessness constantly mess up your life? Because there's a bigger truth: many of us, only get certain things right, some of the time. If you need help sorting out 'how much is too much', I've got answers for you, answers that work to actually solve things. 

I get it, you absolutely hate it when he notices an attractive woman and then stares at her--especially when he's with you, right? But, there's more going on here than meets the eye. And yeah, sometimes when he looks at another woman, that action matters in a way that should probably alert you to a deeper problem. Most of the time though, it's nothing really to worry about (even though maybe it hurts your feelings). Of course, the question is, which is which? Find out in this episode. 

When you ask for help, does your guy say he's going to do something, but then it turns out that he's lousy with the follow through? Instead of getting mad, what do you 'really' need to know, which will help you take a different approach; something that will serve you far better? 
We'll talk about some of the surprising reasons why people don't follow through, so then they end up letting you down. Hint: these will be things you've most likely never thought about before. In this episode, discover a new way to think about this problem, altogether. 

What if you feel like you're doing household stuff, all by yourself, possibly day and night? What if when you try to tell him you need his help, he just rolls his eyes and walks away?
Are men really all that different when it comes to things like understanding what you want, offering to lift your load, and knowing what's needed, without being told? Unfortunately, the answer is definitely yes. But there are solutions that can work to lift your load, which we look at in this episode. 

Believe it or not, there are actually four different types of control freaks out there in the world. And oh no, what if you're closely connected to one of them? Does your guy boss you around, over-manage your choices, or ignore you when you have a different perspective? Does he let you do 'you', or does he want you to do something else entirely?
Sometimes, control issues are important, and other times they just might blow over. Tune in to find out what it is, that you're really dealing with. 
 

Why don't men pay attention when we say stuff? Why does it seem they tune us out, stop listening altogether, or misunderstand what we're getting at, when we try to solve something with them by talking it through?
In this episode, we'll talk about some unusual new ways of thinking about a very old problem. Who knows; you just might be surprised by what comes up here. 

Oooh, solving money issues is a tricky challenge, don't you think? It's definitely, one of the all-time most complicated partnership problems to solve in a way that lasts. And as with all relationship questions, I don't take the typical approach. 
What do most couples do when they can't solve their money issues? They fight. Or instead, maybe the woman suffers in silence, or even pays the bills by herself; because that seems easier than trying to solve something with him, which clearly has no easy answers. As usual, I've got some unusual strategies to offer you, that just might take you to a new place. 

Today, we get into the nitty gritty, boots-on-the-ground topic of lying, oh my. We'll look carefully at the distinction between so-called white lies, and the more poisonous versions of deception, which some people just can't seem to resist, no matter how many people they might hurt along the way. I bring up some really hair-raising examples of outrageous deception, for your consideration. If you've been wondering, 'does he tell me the truth?' Then this is an episode that you won't want to miss. 

What do you do, when there's too much uncomfortable 'dead air' in your connection; places where you can't tell the truth because it's going to start an argument or take your partnership off into the weeds? Need real solutions to get your relationship back on track?
Never fear, Psychic Yuzu has been there before you, and she's worked out not just what goes wrong and why things go out of whack--but what you need to do, to genuinely transform things for the better. Even if you feel like you're walking on eggshells, there are ways to improve not just your life, but help to lift and genuinely support your relationship, too. Join me to find out how.